In the dictionary, "soul mate" means one of two persons compatible with each other in disposition, point of view or sensitivity; someone for whom you have a deep affinity. This explains the basic qualities, but we all know the soul mate theory goes much deeper than that.
According to Celtic wisdom, our souls begin their journey together as one being that becomes broken apart. Two souls emerge and move on into their life journeys. Perhaps we find our twin soul in this life. Maybe we find it in another life. Throughout time, we seek to rejoin our anam cara, the Celtic word for "soul friend", a soul mate who was created as our perfect match.
In order for our soul mate to appear we must be ready for them. You will not meet your soul mate if you are still coming from a place of fear or jealousy in relationships. You couldn't run before you could walk, and you won't meet your soul mate before you are ready to learn what she/he has to teach you. In order to find our soul mate, we must be emotionally secure and know what we want from life.
Did you know there are three main kinds of soul mates? They are: Karmic, Companion and Twin Flames. Study the different kinds and discover which category your soul mate falls under. This will give you a broader understanding of why he or she has come into your life. To help you, I will explain the differences.
The karmic soul mate experience is very common. You can have many of these in a lifetime. They enter your life to teach you an important lesson. Karmic soul mates can be co-workers, family members or close friends. One young woman particularly close to me comes to mind. Her name is Amanda Jane, and she is about twenty years my junior. She jokes that I must be her mother from another life. What makes our friendship special is that we touch on a spiritual level.
I often wonder why Amanda was brought into my life. We are very close, but what lesson am I to learn from her? To enjoy life again? Amanda comes from a dysfunctional family. Am I here to teach her a lesson? Am I to show her that she is loved and cherished? It can and does work both ways.
Sometimes karmic soul mate relationships can be romantic in nature; but if so, they won't last long. That is because these relationships are solely meant for learning lessons and for growth rather than for obtaining a life partner.
Another thing we must keep in mind is that not all karmic relationships are human. Sometimes, pets we consider to be special members of our family can display the same karmic characteristics as humans. An example of this is Avis Townsend's story "Back With Eli" in the karmic section of the book. Ms. Townsend's story shows there are special relationships we can have with our pets to the point where the bond between pet and human becomes so deep it's hard to dismiss it as anything other than the true karmic soul mate relationship.
Another point to remember about karmic soul mates, as well as other kinds of soul mates, is that each one, whether human or animal, comes into our lives for a reason and to teach us a lesson about ourselves.
A companion soul mate relationship can be a relationship that is romantic in nature. It involves your wife/husband or someone you are intimate with. Oftentimes, these soul mates are not destined to be with us forever but, like Karmic soul mates, are brought into our lives for a purpose.
It is possible to spend a lifetime with your companion soul mate if you haven't met your twin soul. However, when the twin soul is found, the companion soul mate relationship could suffer. When this happens, the companion soul mate relationship is generally short-lived or, if it continues, a non-satisfying one. However, this is no reason to jump ship when it happens. Remember, there is a reason your companion soul mate is in your life (for example, so you can raise children together).
When your twin soul comes into your life and you are in a companion soul mate relationship, it is important that you take things slowly. It may be that the companion soul mate relationship will come to an end--or it may not. One thing you must keep in mind is that ending an existing relationship solely because one feels one has found one's twin soul is never a good idea, because over time you will realize that both associations are meant to be and both have an important role in your life.
An interesting aspect of the companion soul mate relationship is that we put more of our energies into it. The karmic soul mate relationship tends to go at an easy pace, without much effort from either partner, as it does with twin souls. The companion soul mate bond requires more work on our parts to sustain a healthy, loving atmosphere.
This is the highest form of soul mate connection. Your twin soul is your other half; to find your twin soul is like finding yourself. We go through our life searching and searching, and what we don't realize is that we are looking for someone just like us. Sometimes, we find them in this life and, other times, in other lives.
I believe they are always around, but for some reason it is not apparent. Perhaps we close our eyes to them. We don't listen and observe. We go through life at such a hectic pace we don't stop and take in things that would otherwise be apparent, so the presence of a soul mate could hit us flat in the face and we wouldn't even know it. This is sad, because we have missed that one, rare opportunity for total bliss and happiness.
Excerpted from the bestseller Romancing the Soul - True Stories of Soul Mates from Around the World and Beyond Publisher: Zumaya Publications ISBN: 1-55410-095-X Binding: Trade Paper 350 page
© Dorothy Thompson
Author, relationship coach and soul mate expert Dorothy Thompson is one of the nation's leading authorities on soul mates. Her book ROMANCING THE SOUL and e-books HOW TO FIND AND KEEP YOUR SOUL MATE and 101 FACTS YOU NEVER KNEW ABOUT SOUL MATES are three of the most comprehensive guides to explaining what soul mates are really all about. Dorothy's relationship columns have appeared in publications in the U.S. and abroad and has been quoted in such books as "Mean Girls Grown Up: Adult Women Who Are Still Queen Bees, Middle Bees, and Afraid-to-Bees" by Cheryl Dellasega. She is a popular radio media guest, appearing on such shows as Lifetime Radio, Single Talk (World Talk Radio), Around2It, and Cuzin Eddie Show with Penny Sansevieri and 850 KOA-AM (Clear Channel Radio with listeners in 38 states, Canada and Mexico) and other media outlets. To receive your FREE EBOOK "101 Things You Never Knew About Soul Mates" or to sign up for her newsletter to receive the free report "Ten Tips in Identifying Your Soul Mate, visit http://www.soulmatequeen.com or http://www.dorothythompson.net.
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